Parents of toddlers understand what power struggles are all about. They likely deal with power struggles on a daily basis. The problem with creating a win-lose situation, is that someone loses. Parenting with a purpose and allowing toddlers a bit more control over their own life can help prevent power struggles and help toddlers develop confidence and independence.
Say Yes More Often
Parents often get into the habit of saying no to their toddler more often than they need to. Parents frequently say no to toddlers because they think they don’t have time to do what the toddler has asked, they are worried that the toddler does not have the ability to do what has been asked, or they are worried about the mess that will be created. Parenting is about allowing toddlers the freedom to experience the world to some degree. Allowing toddlers more freedom when it is possible will help prevent power struggles during other times.
Clearly Explain Why
Toddlers are often told “no” with very little explanation to back up the answer. Parents can prevent many power struggles by explaining to toddlers the reasons behind an answer. Letting toddlers know what the plan is and what they can expect will prevent a lot of toddler stress and help toddlers to feel more of a part of the process.
Treat Toddlers With Respect
Toddlers thrive when they are treated with respect. Toddlers are people too and deserve the same amount of respect that adults do. Parents can get in the habit of thinking that their toddler’s struggles are not as important as their own but to a toddler, the simple struggles of daily life can be just as stressful as an adults worry about the bills. Parents can show respect to toddlers by telling them what the plan is for the day, asking their opinion, and listening when their toddler needs to talk.
Show Toddlers Trust
Power struggles often happen when parents do not show toddlers that they trust them to make decisions on their own. Power struggles over food can happen when parents do not trust their toddler to know when his tummy feels full. Parents can avoid power struggles by expressing trust to their toddler by providing the options such as, "you can finish your dinner or you can leave the table now and you may be hungry later", and allow their toddler to make the choice.
Toddlers often get into a power struggle when they feel like they have no choice in the matter. Whenever possible, parents should allow toddlers to practice making their own choices. Avoiding power struggles can help parents to practice parenting more effectively and develop a stronger relationship with their toddler.
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